When faced with overwhelming difficulties, the array of potential responses becomes smaller and smaller. That difficulties become overwhelming in no small part due to one’s perception of them, rather than any objective appraisal, does not diminish the feeling of impotence that creeps up like a particularly stealthy predator. Looking at global climate change, the ubiquitous persistence of governmental corruption combined with the abject worship of the military, and the puerile nature of identity politics, there is much to be incensed about. This feeling can provide great fodder for a life filled with and defined by angry contrariness, each moment punctuated by protest behavior of various forms. What this does not promote is any sense of being for anything, of standing with something.

In recent discussions I’ve noted my belief that as far as the future of the human species is concerned, I have little hope. The issues stated above coalesce behind and into an inability for human consciousness to grasp the long-term consequences of our actions. We’re very good, sometimes, at predicting the consequences of behavior one or two steps ahead, but move beyond that and we stumble and fall on our faces. Add in the enormity of societal global-scale influence and it’s little wonder policies, both governmental and corporate, are short-sighted, sometimes gleefully so.

This degree of weary wariness need not lead to a full cynical outlook. While there is a certain passion to be found in bashing oneself against nearly immovable objects, an equal if not more powerful life can be had by focusing on an actively engaged relational existence.

One, promote the positive growth of personal relationship connections.

Whatever one may call family, friends, lovers, partners, co-workers, etc., all provide individual seas of near-infinite exploration. This is life itself, the integrative interactive play of relational dynamics, providing the foundation for every social construct we attempt to mold it into. What we do, each and every one of our actions, is a complex relational dynamic with every person around us. Therefore what we do has influence, not because we direct it to be so, but because such influence is inevitable based on the relational nature of reality. Consciously, actively, promoting the growth of each connection means providing the positive space for exploration of self in relation to others. How many times do we find aspects of ourselves we enjoy, but didn’t know existed, due to a new relationship? This goes beyond new hobbies and interests, though those are true as well, but new sources of laughter, ideas for exploration and ways of being. Every connection has this latent potential if we but seek to discover it.

IMG_1663Two, seek being surprised.

This stems directly from the growth of connections, dwelling happily in the humility coming from the tentative nature of knowledge. Seeking surprise is about glorying in the search for the frontiers of discovery, actively seeking and appreciating being wrong. Doing so doesn’t mean jettisoning all ideas with every piece of new information, it means skeptically inquiring as to the limits of your worldview. This inquiry is not merely external, knowledge doesn’t exist apart from the knower.  Research contributes to the idea that as we actively explore the various selves that contribute to our personal narrative, creativity can blossom into new forms of behavior and ways of dealing with difficulties. Too often we look at relationships as external, as interactions out there in the real world. There are just as many occurring internally, in the interplay of our selves. How does the “work-place” you connect with and expand upon the “at-home” you and/or the “out-with-friends” you? Seeking surprise is as much finding out the limits of our knowledge as it is determining the edges for growth in our self-reflections.

Three, contribute in even the smallest of daily ways to the happiness around you.

This may sound like an overly long bumper sticker, but in the face of problems larger than I can manage alone, contributing to a smile or a laugh is the kind of victory in the face of defeat that makes each day worth living. Taken together with the previous two points, spreading happiness means humbly accepting that what a person does is not always personally directed and how I respond may very well inspire a connection that otherwise I’d have thought impossible. In every disagreement there is still a shared humanity that is worth exploring, for just as we are not bound by any individual thought we express, neither is anybody else. Happiness is smiles and laughter, but it is also forgiveness and understanding.

I don’t have the solution to global problems, I don’t even know where exactly to begin. The sheer scope of the difficulties facing humanity is not possible for any one person, likely not even a group of people, to comprehend the solutions for. These issues should not be ignored, but the weight of that knowledge can be overwhelming, to the point where it feels like empathy is more of a curse than a blessing. Living a philosophy of 1) positive relational growth, 2) seeking surprise, and 3) contribute to happiness, expands empathy without the crushing impact of the seemingly impossible. Perhaps, just maybe, the solutions will arise when being contrary to is expanded into standing for.

© David Teachout


  1. I’ve just ‘discovered’ you through another connection and appreciate the sentiments you share. It reminds me of Indra’s net – an endless interconnectedness of everything/one to everything/one else through the refections of one to another. No goodness or badness, an is-ness that allows for the possibilities to unfold in ways that become clearer for the connections that we see through an expanding of awareness and allowing ourselves to be the bearers and deliverers of our innate nature and gifts, to share in our humanity without fear or insecurity. Namaste 🙂

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    1. Thank you. I do still believe in good and bad, but it’s in degrees and parts rather than the black and white of judgmental dogmatism. A person can lie and still value truth. A person can value life and still kill. We are so much more than a singular entity. We are, as you put it, bearers of “possibilities to unfold.”

      Am glad you like what you see. Feel free to follow, share and ask any questions that come up. 🙂


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