Each article for Growing Connections will be exploring how Relational-ACT works in life, seeking to address the confusions and struggles we all deal with. Relational-ACT starts with the fundamental unit of existence being that of relationship. We develop our personal experiences, project meaning, construct our stories and manifest our behavior within the relational web of our lives.

That relational web is perceived through the lenses of our various identities or perspectives. Think of it as the “hats” you wear at work, with your friends, and at home. All of these are you and yet the “real you” feels different because it is all of them together. What possibilities exist for behaving, the form our stories take, and the type of social connections we build are all dependent upon which perspective we’re using.

Stagnation or feeling trapped can manifest in our emotional, behavioral and thinking lives. All too often the self-destructive effects of shame and doubt erupt when such feelings of being trapped occur, making growth and personal expansion seemingly impossible to pursue.

To progress in the pursuit of and fulfill your life focus is begun with an exploration of your connections/relationships. Through mentoring within the principles of Relational-ACT we can identify the Values that are important to you, explore the Narrative of your life, and open the space for new Behavior to emerge.

If you have a question that you’re wondering how Relational-ACT would address, please feel free to write me at david.teachout@lifeweavings.org and I’ll be sure to let you know when the response is posted.

Find all articles under the category of Growing Connections. The first three entries in the series explore the essential characteristics of Relational-ACT.


“Values are the cognitive manifestation of an emotional state. No feeling exists unattached from a particular situation or object (person, place, or thing). This is because feelings are an initial evaluative tool. They’re an immediate way for us to start the path of our response to a situation or object. The way we describe our relationship between an emotion and what is being evaluated is through the use of a Value.”

Personal Narrative

“Narrative is a broad term that holds the notions of perspective, structure and intentionality. It is the process through which we decide what is important to us among the vast information in our experiences, organize our responses and direct the attention of others to the self-image we’ve constructed.”


“Behavior is our humanity interacting within the relational reality in which we all reside. Existing within that established social space, it not so much creates a new experience as discovers the potential residing within each situational context. This is why we cannot simply do anything we want, whenever we want, our behavior must manifest within the layered context of each personal Vision and social possibility.”

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